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Cohort 1 Begins April 21, 2026

12 Weeks That Change Everything

A clinically guided small group intensive for women navigating betrayal recovery

Stop surviving on autopilot. Reclaim your clarity, your confidence, and your sense of self in a safe, structured community of women who truly understand.

Limited to 15 women  |  Live on Zoom  |  $1,797 or 3 payments of $647

You're not losing your mind. You're having a normal response to something that never should have happened.

Right now, you might be experiencing some or all of this. Every single one of these is a recognized trauma response, not a sign that something is wrong with you.

The obsessive mental loops

You can't stop replaying details. Searching for clues you missed. Your brain is running a full investigation 24/7, and you can't turn it off.

The crushing isolation

You've told maybe one or two people, or no one. Because how do you explain this without feeling shame that isn't even yours to carry?

The identity crisis

The confident woman who trusted her instincts feels gone. You second guess everything now. You're not sure you can trust your own mind.

The physical toll

You're not sleeping. Your appetite is gone. The tight chest, the nausea, the startle response when your phone buzzes. Your body is holding this trauma.

The impossible decisions

Stay or go? Tell the kids? Every choice feels enormous and irreversible, and you're supposed to make them while your nervous system is in crisis.

The loneliness of looking fine

From the outside, you're holding it together. But inside, you are barely breathing. And the gap between how you look and how you feel is getting wider every day.

Maybe it was a text message. A credit card statement. A gut feeling you couldn't ignore anymore. Maybe someone told you. Maybe he told you himself.

However you got here, you're here. And "here" feels like a place no one prepared you for.

Everyone around you has an opinion. "Just leave him." "You should forgive." "At least he didn't..." "Have you tried couples therapy?"

But none of them are standing inside your body at 2 AM, heart racing, scrolling through months of memories trying to figure out which ones were real.

You don't have to white knuckle your way through this alone. And you shouldn't have to.

Your nervous system is doing exactly what it was designed to do when safety is shattered. But you need more than time to heal from this. You need the right support, the right tools, and the right people around you.

Not a course. Not a support group. Not therapy.

Most resources give you one piece of the puzzle. Information without community. Community without clinical grounding. Therapy without structure. Support groups without a roadmap.

The Compass Recovery Intensive brings it all together.

01

Clinical Framework

Every session is grounded in betrayal trauma research, nervous system science, and the prodependence model. We will never frame your pain as a sign that something is wrong with you. Your love and loyalty are not pathology. They are strengths that got weaponized against you.

02

Structured Progression

Healing isn't random, even when it feels chaotic. The 12 week curriculum meets you where you are in Week 1 and walks you, gently and deliberately, toward stability, clarity, and agency by Week 12. You'll know where you've been, where you are, and where you're going.

03

Witnessed Community

Something happens when you sit in a room with 12 other women who get it. Who don't need the backstory. Who nod when you can't finish the sentence. That kind of witnessing is healing in a way that no book or podcast can replicate.

What Changes Over 12 Weeks

Where You Are Now

  • Waking up with dread, replaying the betrayal before your feet hit the floor
  • Functioning on autopilot, doing what needs to be done but feeling nothing or everything
  • Unable to make decisions about your relationship, your future, or even what to have for dinner
  • Feeling like a stranger in your own life
  • Carrying shame that doesn't belong to you
  • Isolated, even when surrounded by people
  • Questioning your sanity, your worth, your judgment

Where You'll Be After 12 Weeks

  • Sleeping through the night more often than not, and having a plan for when you don't
  • Understanding your trauma responses and knowing how to regulate your nervous system in real time
  • Thinking more clearly about your future from grounded self knowledge, not panic
  • Having language for what happened that doesn't include self blame
  • Feeling connected to a community of women who truly understand
  • Making decisions from values and clarity, not fear
  • Recognizing yourself again. Changed, yes, but not diminished.

This is not about "getting over it." This is about integrating what happened into a life that is still, and fully, yours.

Your 12 Week Recovery Journey

Each week builds on the last. You'll never be thrown into the deep end without a life jacket.

Phase 1: Stabilize

Weeks 1 through 3

"Before we can heal, we have to stop the bleeding."

Week 1: Ground Zero

Understanding what happened to you. We normalize the trauma response, introduce the prodependence framework, and establish group agreements that make this space safe.

Week 2: Your Nervous System Is Not the Enemy

An accessible deep dive into how betrayal hijacks your nervous system, and the specific somatic tools that bring you back to safety. You'll leave with a personal regulation toolkit.

Week 3: The Story You're Telling Yourself

Untangling the shame stories, the self blame loops, the "I should have known" soundtrack. You'll start separating what happened from what it means about you.

Phase 2: Understand

Weeks 4 through 6

"Clarity doesn't come from figuring him out. It comes from understanding yourself."

Week 4: Betrayal, Attachment, and Why You Loved the Way You Did

Using a prodependence lens, we explore your attachment patterns not to pathologize them, but to honor them. Your capacity for deep love and loyalty is not the problem.

Week 5: The Grief No One Talks About

Betrayal is a death of trust, of the relationship you thought you had, of the future you planned. This week we name the layers of grief and give you permission to mourn fully.

Week 6: Gaslighting, Trickle Truth, and Rebuilding Trust in Yourself

If you've been told you're "crazy" or "too sensitive," this week is for you. We dismantle the gaslighting and begin the most important rebuilding project: trust in your own perception.

Phase 3: Reclaim

Weeks 7 through 9

"You are not what happened to you. You are what you choose to become."

Week 7: Boundaries as Self Respect

Not punishment. Not walls. Boundaries as a practice of honoring what you need. We'll get specific: what to say, how to hold it, and what to do when it's tested.

Week 8: The Decision You Don't Have to Make Today

Stay or go? This week we take the pressure off the Big Decision and build a framework for values based discernment. You'll learn to make choices from clarity, not crisis.

Week 9: Triggers, Setbacks, and the Nonlinear Path

Healing is not a straight line. Some weeks will feel like you've gone backward. This week we normalize the nonlinear nature of recovery and equip you with tools for the hard days.

Phase 4: Rebuild

Weeks 10 through 12

"This is where you begin to see who you're becoming."

Week 10: Reclaiming Your Identity Beyond the Betrayal

You are more than this chapter. This week we reconnect with the parts of yourself that got buried: your passions, your confidence, your sense of humor, your vision for the future.

Week 11: Intimacy, Vulnerability, and What Comes Next

Whether you're rebuilding with your partner or preparing for life without them, this week addresses the tender questions about trust, intimacy, and opening your heart again on your terms.

Week 12: Integration, Celebration, and Your Compass Going Forward

We close with intention. You'll create a personal recovery compass: a living document of your values, boundaries, tools, and community that keeps guiding you long after the program ends.

What You Get When You Join

12 Weekly Live Group Sessions

Tuesdays at 7:00 PM ET, 90 minutes each. Clinically facilitated sessions combining teaching, guided processing, and witnessed sharing. Every session is recorded.

12 Weekly Q&A Drop In Sessions

Thursdays at 12:00 PM ET, 30 minutes. A midweek lunchtime touchpoint for questions, quick coaching, and connection. Come as you are. Camera optional.

Private Online Community

A secure, private space just for your cohort. Share wins, ask for support between sessions, and know that someone is actively monitoring and participating throughout the week.

Weekly Journaling Prompts

Thoughtfully crafted prompts designed to deepen the work between sessions. These aren't busy work. They're carefully sequenced to support your processing and growth.

Weekly Audio Lessons

Short, focused audio teachings (10 to 15 minutes) you can listen to on a walk, in the car, or before bed. Each one reinforces the week's theme and gives your brain something nourishing.

Recordings and Resource Library

Every session recorded and housed in a private portal, along with all handouts, tools, and resources. You'll have access for 12 months after the program ends.

Included When You Join

01

Emergency Regulation Toolkit

Somatic exercises, breathing protocols, grounding scripts, and guided audio recordings designed for acute moments. The 2 AM panic, the triggering text, the wave of grief in the grocery store. Lives on your phone so it's always within reach.

02

Private 1:1 Intake Call

Before the program begins, a private 30 minute call to understand your story and make sure this is the right fit. This also means we walk into Week 1 already knowing who's in the room.

03

6 Month Alumni Community Access

When the 12 weeks end, the community doesn't. Stay connected with your cohort, share updates, and have ongoing peer support as you continue integrating your healing.

04

Partner Resource Guide

If your partner is doing their own work, this guide gives them a clear, compassionate overview of what betrayal trauma is, what you need from them, and how they can support your recovery. Direct without being punitive.

Honest Expectations

This Was Built For You If

  • You discovered your partner's infidelity, sexual betrayal, or chronic deception within the last 3 to 18 months
  • You're functioning, going to work, parenting, managing your life, but you know something has to change before you break
  • You're tired of Googling at midnight and want a structured path forward
  • You crave connection with women who actually understand, not just sympathy but recognition
  • You're open to doing the inner work, even when it's uncomfortable
  • You want clinically informed guidance, not just cheerleading
  • You value privacy, respect, and emotional safety in a group setting

This Is Probably Not the Right Fit If

  • The betrayal happened less than 2 weeks ago (you need individual crisis support first)
  • You're looking for someone to tell you whether to stay or leave
  • You're seeking a replacement for therapy (this is a complement, not a substitute)
  • You're not willing to commit to showing up weekly and doing the between session work
  • You're looking for a place to vent without structure or guidance
  • You are currently in active danger in your relationship (please reach out and we'll connect you with the right resources)

Coming Soon From Our First Cohort

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"I finally stopped feeling like I was losing my mind. The structure gave me something to hold onto when everything else felt like chaos."

Future Cohort 1 Participant
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"Being in a room with women who understood without needing the whole backstory was the most healing part. I didn't have to explain myself. They just knew."

Future Cohort 1 Participant
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"For the first time in months, I feel like I can trust my own mind again. That alone was worth every penny."

Future Cohort 1 Participant

Two Ways to Join

The Compass Recovery Intensive is priced at a fraction of what 12 weeks of specialist level individual sessions would cost (typically $3,000 to $4,500+). But this isn't discounted therapy. It's a different kind of experience, one that combines clinical expertise with the irreplaceable power of community.

Payment Plan

$647

3 monthly payments ($1,941 total)

Enroll Now

Only 15 spots available. When they're filled, the next cohort won't open until late summer 2026.

The Compass Confidence Guarantee: After your 1:1 intake call and the first live session, if you feel this isn't the right space for you, email within 48 hours and receive a full refund. No hoops. No guilt. No awkwardness.

Frequently Asked Questions

Not at all. In fact, it's the ideal complement. Your therapist holds your individual story; this program provides the community, structure, and betrayal specific curriculum that most general therapists aren't trained to offer. Many participants find that the Intensive actually deepens and accelerates their individual therapy work.
Life happens, especially right now. Every session is recorded and available within 24 hours. You'll also have the Thursday Q&A to stay connected midweek and the private community for ongoing support. That said, the live sessions are where the real connection happens, so we encourage you to protect that Tuesday evening as much as possible.
No. Betrayal trauma encompasses physical affairs, emotional affairs, pornography addiction, financial deception, chronic lying, and other forms of relational betrayal. If your sense of safety and trust was shattered by your partner's hidden behavior, this space is for you.
More than okay. It's expected. Many women in this program are in the middle of that question, and the Intensive is intentionally designed to support you regardless of where that decision lands. We don't push an agenda. We help you build the clarity to choose from your values, not your panic.
You will never be pressured to share anything you're not ready to share. Some women are open from Week 1; others take several weeks to speak up. Both are honored. The group agreements we establish protect everyone's pace and privacy.
This is a clinically facilitated space, which means the facilitator is trained to recognize and respond to activation in real time. We build regulation tools into the very first weeks of the program, and you'll have the Emergency Regulation Toolkit from day one. You're not going to be left drowning in your feelings without a life raft.
Three things: clinical facilitation, structured curriculum, and curated community. Free groups are valuable, but they're often unmoderated, populated by people at vastly different stages, and can inadvertently reinforce traumatic patterns. This program has a specific trajectory, a trained facilitator, and a carefully held container.
Absolutely. Every participant signs a group confidentiality agreement. What is shared in the group stays in the group, full stop. The private online community is hosted on a secure, invitation only platform that doesn't appear in your social media or search history.
The prodependence model rejects the idea that partners of people who betray are "codependent" or somehow complicit in the betrayal. Instead, it recognizes that your attachment, your love, and your desire to preserve your relationship are healthy human impulses that were exploited. This framework eliminates the shame of the outdated codependency lens and puts the responsibility where it belongs.
Yes. If after the 1:1 intake call and the first live session you feel this isn't the right fit, email within 48 hours and you'll receive a full refund, no questions asked. After Week 2, refunds are not available, as the group dynamic is established and your seat cannot be offered to someone else.

You Don't Need More Willpower.
You Need a Path, a Plan, and People Who Understand.

You've read this far, which tells me something: a part of you knows that what you've been doing isn't sustainable. The white knuckling. The isolation. The pretending.

Cohort 1 begins April 21, 2026. There are 15 spots. If something on this page spoke to you, if you saw yourself in these words, that recognition is information. Trust it.

Have questions? Email tara@gritandgracerecovery.com. Personal response within 24 hours.

Built by a Clinician Who Specializes in Betrayal Trauma Recovery

This program was designed by a licensed clinician and Certified Betrayal Trauma Specialist who didn't choose this specialty from a textbook. She chose it because she lived it.

Before she was a clinician, she was a woman scrolling forums at 3 AM, trying to make sense of something that doesn't make sense. She was the woman who smiled through school pickup and fell apart in the car. She was the woman who wondered if she'd ever feel like herself again.

That experience didn't just inform her clinical work. It built it. Every protocol, every framework, every group is shaped by the understanding that betrayal trauma is not a character flaw. It's a wound. And wounds, when tended with skill and compassion, heal.

  • Licensed clinician specializing exclusively in betrayal trauma recovery
  • Trained in EMDR, somatic experiencing, and attachment focused therapy
  • Prodependence informed practitioner
  • Facilitator of betrayal trauma groups for 5+ years
  • Has lived inside this pain and rebuilt from it

She will never ask you to do something she hasn't done herself.

If you are in crisis: National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233  |  988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: dial 988  |  Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741